Blog entries from: Reluctant Memsahib

the diary of wife, mother and failed domestic goddess in Africa

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April 8 2014

From Reluctant Memsahib Tue Apr 8 2014, 05:03:02

      Miranda Hart said it in Call The Midwife, 'I have acres and acres of time'. Like me. I know I should be grateful for all the open-ended hours, should use them wisely. But I'm overwhelmed by them; they loom and taunt, 'What are you going to do with us all then, hey, hey, [...]

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April 3 2014

From Reluctant Memsahib Thu Apr 3 2014, 05:05:08

My daughter, writing her dissertation, 'Never Complete. Never whole. White Skin and an African Soul', asks me for a quote, 'Why do you think you're African'. I tell her, I feel African because everything about this place is familiar from the light, to the seasons, to the rains, the colours, the insects, the birdcalls, the [...]

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February 25 2014

From Reluctant Memsahib Tue Feb 25 2014, 10:35:59

I've moved. From Tanzania to Kenya to Zambia to Kenya and back to Tanzania. It seems pertinent, given all that moving and shape changing, that this blog morph in empathy. I'm here now. And here.

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January 12 2014

From Reluctant Memsahib Sun Jan 12 2014, 03:40:06

    Every time I walk past their box, the little quail call greedily. It didn't take them long to learn I equated with food. Despite securing their home with chicken wire, wound taught so that I cut my hands as I wrapped it, there is still the occasional Houdini so that I'm suddenly aware [...]

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October 4 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Fri Oct 4 2013, 09:17:04

An editor once described my works as 'elliptical and impressionistic'. She meant I meandered and could not pin the facts to the page. I have left kind readers baffled as to my whereabouts. I have even led some to believe that I had been abandoned by Ant. No. Not yet. As I said: it could [...]

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October 3 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Thu Oct 3 2013, 12:14:30

I keep telling myself. It could be worse. It could be worse. It could be. I didn't think it could be when it ended in tears here. I didn't' think it could be when we got here. But it did. It got worse. So now. Now. As I write. With a cold beer at my [...]

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August 2 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Fri Aug 2 2013, 23:33:15

By the end of this year I'll have moved again. That'll make my fourth trans-Africa move in less than 24 months: Tanzania to Kenya, Kenya to Zambia, Zambia to Kenya and Kenya back to Tanzania. I'll have called six, or is it seven? eight even? different houses Home. Such movement, such apparently overwhelming change, seems [...]

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June 27 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Thu Jun 27 2013, 08:57:02

A friend has lent me a home. I lent him one. A long, long time ago when I was just a new-mum-to-one.  Him. His girlfriend. Their mongoose, called Pepper. And a pig. Which snuffled in the veg patch and feasted on parsley.  A friend says, 'that's karma for you'.  I think she means what goes [...]

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May 20 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Mon May 20 2013, 02:53:21

That we will be on the move again is inevitable. I rail against the thought of more unsettledness, more uncertainty, more bloody racketing around. But I rail more against our employers. (Can they be employers even when they don't' honour Employment contracts?). They have made the mistake so many Investors in Africa make - listen [...]

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May 15 2013

From Reluctant Memsahib Wed May 15 2013, 11:26:11

I walk a wide, wide beach the colour of a perfect capuccino. The sea is cleaner now - last weekend a swathe of water like coffee stained the deepblue ; evidence of recent heavy, heavy rain so that the river to the north spat debris for weeks is everywhere: the roots of borassus palms; bits [...]

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